In examining the different orientations, I found that I have two bends and they depend on the situations I am in. Sometimes I will take part in the other-centered orientation or relationship centered orientation.
When I engage in other-centered orientation I generally do not care about the outcome. If I don't have an opinion, or its something that isn't as important to me as it is to another person compromise is not as important.Generally, in those instances resentment is not an issue. I am fairly adaptable so sometimes it is just easier to go along for the ride.
If the issue is something I really care about or really bothers me I will bring it up in a relationship centered orientation and we generally find a way to come to a good compromise that both walk away feeling like we got the best option. Granted in this situation it is good to approach the conflict after dealing with any emotional aspects. I have found that if I am emotionally charged, it makes coming to resolution take longer. So taking time examine the emotions and working past them is actually really helpful.
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