I learned a lot from this class. I learned that sometimes in conflict, I can throw verbal daggers, and because I was made aware of it, I can change it. I also learned that conflict is something that is really good and it doesn't have to be a hugely emotional experience. Conflict can be something that is very positive. And having that view point actually has helped me embrace the conflicts that occur in disagreements in my marriage as well as trust that my husband has my best interest at heart. Being positive about conflict had made me more open to creative ideas on how to have a equally satisfying resolution. I have also learned that in a high emotional conflict, not to take offense to things said out of anger, but instead respond with "How is that constructive to this conversation?" And it sets a boundary, and I also don't respond back in kind. Saying something along those lines puts everyone on a level playing field, and also brings about an apology.
Because of the reading, I was able to put words and definitions to different conflict styles, and it has helped me better understand the conflicts styles within my personal relationships and how to interact with within those styles. It has also helped me work through changes within friendships and forgiveness. This class has given me a better understand of conflict and a desire to work through conflict in a very healthy and non-hurtful way.
I really enjoyed this class. THANKS!!!
Blogging Molly is signing off!
Sunday, December 9, 2012
What I liked Chpt 16 D2
I really enjoyed this class. One, it was online. I love online classes because I don't feel like my time is being wasted in a classroom setting. This class actually forced me to read the text book which is rare, and then I also learned a lot about myself that I could apply. I like classes where the things taught are actually applicable to everyday life. The workshop although, challenging I think was a really fun project to work on. I did not feel like to homework was busy work, which I actually really appreciated. I've spend a long time in school so its really refreshing to have a class where the homework and projects where very practical and logical. The quizzes where also on topics that were covered. A lot of times I find professors give out study guides and then when the test comes, they complicate the crap out of the test. I felt like these quizzes and the midterm where actually on the materials taught.
I will say it was hard to remember that I needed to post blogs every week. That was difficult and I had to write a lot of reminders to myself. Sometimes those did not even work! I wonder if there is a way to set up an automatic email that reminds students of the blogs, granted the point of growing up is learning how to manage and remember things. I really enjoyed this classes and learned a lot from it personally and like that I can apply it to my life.
I will say it was hard to remember that I needed to post blogs every week. That was difficult and I had to write a lot of reminders to myself. Sometimes those did not even work! I wonder if there is a way to set up an automatic email that reminds students of the blogs, granted the point of growing up is learning how to manage and remember things. I really enjoyed this classes and learned a lot from it personally and like that I can apply it to my life.
Friday, December 7, 2012
Chapter 16 D1
People have negative views of conflict I believe because of their mindsets. They don't see conflict as a positive thing in life. They see it as an impending doom. Conflict is a great way to learn more about how other people perceive things, as well as how you filter things as well. It is almost like a litmus test for living and being a healthy person. I think that people who do not seem themselves as creative may struggle more with the idea of conflict because they struggle with finding a solution.
I believe that the more people learn about conflict, it helps them see it differently. When you learn about something, it makes it harder to fear it. Another catalyst to a fear of conflict is experiences. If someone has never had a good conflict experience, they will generally see it in a negative light. Conflict makes a person feel an array of emotions and if they struggle with controlling their emotions that can also lead to a negative view. Conflict has a tendency to highlight the things people don't like about themselves, or things they are blind too. That is a hard thing to take, and the emotions associated with that are negative, and it can cloud someone's view of conflict.
I personally think conflict is good, I always feel like the relationship after a conflict is a lot deeper because I have gained a better understanding of the other person and vice versa. I think that alone makes conflict worth it.
I believe that the more people learn about conflict, it helps them see it differently. When you learn about something, it makes it harder to fear it. Another catalyst to a fear of conflict is experiences. If someone has never had a good conflict experience, they will generally see it in a negative light. Conflict makes a person feel an array of emotions and if they struggle with controlling their emotions that can also lead to a negative view. Conflict has a tendency to highlight the things people don't like about themselves, or things they are blind too. That is a hard thing to take, and the emotions associated with that are negative, and it can cloud someone's view of conflict.
I personally think conflict is good, I always feel like the relationship after a conflict is a lot deeper because I have gained a better understanding of the other person and vice versa. I think that alone makes conflict worth it.
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