When it comes to Facebook. I try to be very true to who I am, without crossing lines. In general, when I post status updates, I think about how I feel about what I am saying and why I want to post it. If its something that is somewhat questionable, I will not post it. Same with photos, I have a test that I put my photo posting through. It goes likes this:
Would an employer find this questionable?
Will the high school students that I mentor get the wrong impression based off the photos or their parents?
Is this something I'd want my parents and In-Laws to see?
When it comes to posting things on a friends profile, I use the same test and for the most part will send it to them in a message if it is in anyway questionable. I would like to think that when people visit my page, they actually enjoy my posts since my main goal is to make people laugh at the things I write. As well as I would want the life I have off social media to reflect what I post. I am not into having two different appearances. So if my faces aren't adding up, I would feel like a fraud because what I am communicating online does not add up to what I communicate in person. I have been in situations where I have posted something that crossed a line, as well as someone did the same to me.
I had an issue where a family member on my husband's side (whom I had never met when this started) was taking pictures of me off my Facebook and posting them on her own, and it escalated to some very rude captions posted by her on the photos she had added to her page. At first I ignored it, until it escalated and I had to ask her to stop taking photos, as well as take her comments off on the photos she had posted. While I was very gracious it turned into a huge family drama because I had suddenly stepped on her toes. I ended up blocked, and later found out she was writing mean statuses about me. Her blocking me and such worked out in my favor, because I no longer had to have my pictures taken off my page, nor deal with her at all. It taught me to screen what is being posted and to utilize privacy settings.
I find it interesting how different people who work with students handle their Facebook profiles. One teacher I know has a lot of students on her friends list and she make shouts out to the frequently so I know that she has things set up so that they can see whatever she posts. It’s all very key G rated stuff so that works quite well for her. Another teacher I know maintains a completely separate and anonymous profile where she can be herself, which is very foulmouthed and irreverent. It sounds like you and I manager Facebook profiles relatively the same.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry to hear about your husband’s relative taking your photos and adding rude captions. It seems bizarre to me that you ended up being the person who was seen as stepping on her toes. I would consider it an absolute violation of my privacy which it sounds like you did too. It sounds as if she is a very inconsiderate person and you’re lucky that she blocked you. We often have to play nice with family members who we are totally incompatible with. With everything that happened, I imagine that no one in the family is pressuring you to sit at the same table through holiday meals together. Consider it a blessing.